Relationships are hard, but even harder when it's not what you want and you are trying to be someone you aren't, and same thing with your mate. Discover who you are first, enjoy that, and don't compromise or fool yourself that you, or they, will change. It is possible to change, but it takes a lot of effort, and pain, and desire to do so because the other person is worth it; that's why I see a lot of marriages ending, because they have unrealistic expectations of the other's willingness to make that effort, or their depth of love and commitment. When it does work out, it's awesome; but as the author says, it's not for everyone.
I had it all. I had the American dream. I lived in a beautiful loft in the heart of SoHo (okay, I know some of you want the house and the picket fence, I wanted a loft in New York City).
And I had the baby, the most wonderful daughter. And two dogs. I had everything I'd ever dreamed of and I was deeply, deeply grateful.
It lasted until about a week after the wedding.
"Now, more than ever, the illusions of division threaten our very existence. We all know the truth: more connects us than separates us. But in times of crisis the wise build bridges, while the foolish build barriers. We must find a way to look after one another as if we were one single tribe.” -King T'Challa, Black Panther
The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it. ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. ~Winston Churchill
