A new study out of the University of California, Berkeley, found that individuals who are easily embarrassed are also more trustworthy, generous and monogamous than those who aren't.
CinnamonGirl wrote: A new study out of the University of California, Berkeley, found that individuals who are easily embarrassed are also more trustworthy, generous and monogamous than those who aren't.
If you embarass easily you're probably too concerned about how others percieve so you just act more trustworthy, generous and monogamous to avoid further embarassment and shame...It's just like hero's who do things heroic just so people will see them as hero's, are not heros at all.
CinnamonGirl wrote: A new study out of the University of California, Berkeley, found that individuals who are easily embarrassed are also more trustworthy, generous and monogamous than those who aren't.
Embarrassment, at least as I experience it, originates with not meeting my own expectations. It has little to do with how others perceive me. As the famous Gone with the Wind line goes "Frankly, my dear, I could give a damn." I can experience that without anyone present or pointing out a fault. Generally speaking though, anger at myself rather than embarrassment is more likely to well up when alone. I've cussed myself out many times. Now that I think about it and explore those feelings, the fact another has to point out or witness my failure before I can correct it leads to embarrassment. How that relates to trustworthy, generous, magnanimous is an interesting issue. I can relate to being magnanimous because in witnessing my own shortcomings, I realize how easy it is to accomplish such, hence the recognition allows one to be magnanimous knowing full well it would be yourself soon enough. I expect generous has a parallel here if limited in the way as magnanimous. Could it also be in terms of willingness to give? I suppose so. What I find as a common thread is the ability to realize situations that cause some embarrassment are widespread and can happen to anyone and are not necessarily of your own making. Hence there is empathy.
So how does this then come back to others trusting you more? I'll need to think about that some more. I do not readily see the rational behind it.
For me, feeling embarrassed means I may have done something wrong and I have a conscious, so I feel "wrong" about what I did.
Or I'll get embarrassed when I'm around someone who has no clue that they are acting improperly...but that is me being embarrassed for them 'cuz they aren't.
Lastly, I'm basically a shy person and I'll get embarrassed when I'm in a public situation and am singled out for something, even if it is something good.
It has been shown that psychopaths have a difficult time admitting they did wrong, let alone being embarrassed because they did wrong. Their little Jiminy Cricket isn't there and whispering in their ears.
People that show they know their feelings, especially when something is wrong (they may not be admitting their mistake or that they are wrong verbally, but they certainly are with body language) and actually feel them are more trustworthy, in my mind.
