Here's a question I've been meaning to ask since CriticalBill brought it up in another thread: why is it that there is so much lament over the loss of a fetus versus lament over the loss of all the potential babies that will never be because of birth control preventing ovulation? A loss of potential life is a loss of potential life, whether it occurs before conception or after, yet we don't hear protests against the availability of birth control, or people decrying "family planning" for young married couples.
Again, I'm not saying that I advocate abortion as birth control, because I don't, I'd just like to understand why there's such an emotional difference for people between these two similar situations. To me, there are an infinite number of human people that can be formed from all the egg and sperm combinations of all the people who are alive, but obviously 99.9% will never be because we aren't giving birth to every egg we are born with and most sperm goes to waste. Why don't we think of all those that will never be and mourn?
I almost wasn't born either, not because of an abortion, but because my mom and dad weren't ready for kids yet and her doctor high-handedly decided for her it was time and refused to prescribe her birth control any longer (they'd been married a grand total of 2 years and were 24 and 21 - not that far out of childhood themselves and not established in careers yet). This thought causes me absolutely no angst, because if I wasn't born, I wouldn't exist to care and be upset about it. My kids wouldn't exist either,but my mom would've eventually had a different kid with a later egg, and that kid would've likely had kids - but now they will never be. And maybe that line of humans would've been better than me, maybe worse, maybe accomplished more for humanity, maybe turned into the worst mass serial murderers, who knows? It's all random chance and to get so emotional about it boggles my mind. Anyone have a good explanation, other than I'm just too rational and logical?
RT - you know nothing of CG's life and her relationship with her mother, so bug off.
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Science Chic wrote: Here's a question I've been meaning to ask since CriticalBill brought it up in another thread: why is it that there is so much lament over the loss of a fetus versus lament over the loss of all the potential babies that will never be because of birth control preventing ovulation? A loss of potential life is a loss of potential life, whether it occurs before conception or after, yet we don't hear protests against the availability of birth control, or people decrying "family planning" for young married couples.
Again, I'm not saying that I advocate abortion as birth control, because I don't, I'd just like to understand why there's such an emotional difference for people between these two similar situations. To me, there are an infinite number of human people that can be formed from all the egg and sperm combinations of all the people who are alive, but obviously 99.9% will never be because we aren't giving birth to every egg we are born with and most sperm goes to waste. Why don't we think of all those that will never be and mourn?
I almost wasn't born either, not because of an abortion, but because my mom and dad weren't ready for kids yet and her doctor high-handedly decided for her it was time and refused to prescribe her birth control any longer (they'd been married a grand total of 2 years and were 24 and 21 - not that far out of childhood themselves and not established in careers yet). This thought causes me absolutely no angst, because if I wasn't born, I wouldn't exist to care and be upset about it. My kids wouldn't exist either,but my mom would've eventually had a different kid with a later egg, and that kid would've likely had kids - but now they will never be. And maybe that line of humans would've been better than me, maybe worse, maybe accomplished more for humanity, maybe turned into the worst mass serial murderers, who knows? It's all random chance and to get so emotional about it boggles my mind. Anyone have a good explanation, other than I'm just too rational and logical?
RT - you know nothing of CG's life and her relationship with her mother, so bug off.
I guess much of the lament over abortion vs. birth control because there are birth control methods - anywhere from a daily pill, a fifty cent condom, or hey -- try this one - abstaining (it's really cheap). So on a social level, the consequences of irresponsibility by two individuals is rectified by the killing a baby.
Libtards educate young minds to do what feels good....but at the end of the day...what feels good has consequences. The American public has been sexualized via schools and media - it's another control mechanism of liberals - I might even suggest communist.
Destroy their religious beliefs, destroy the concept of strong families, destroy the concept of man and woman marriage, destroy morals, destroy the truths...and you now have control.
As a scientist, you know that there is a big difference between a baby and a unfertilized egg - not sure why you would even ask the question.
Sounds like your parents doctor made the right decision.
Ignore him on my mother. He doesn't need to know anything about me. It wouldn't change his mind anyway. And my point about my mother, was as sweet as Trouble was about that, it was not about her.
SC, this is a complex issue but once an egg is fertilized, for me, that makes it real and we are playing God by what we decide to do. I guess it is a difference in the way you and I look at it. I see it as life and you can't just swap out a new egg. I object to putting those two issues together mainly because adult decisions are different from making a decision on a life that is viable and real (in my mind).
Basically, what I am thinking about are those who will talk about pets and animals and protect them at any cost and then turn around and abort a baby and not blink.
I feel adults can make their own decisions on birth control and we do have a responsibility to make it available. I think, I am not sure that you think of a fertalized egg the same as just thinking about having children. I don't. Your mother's doctor was an idiot it sounds like but she had choices because she is an adult. So, I think, not sure, that you see this as just a science thing and you can just get a new one. I don't see it that way. Playing god by deciding which egg lives or dies is not something I feel comfortable with and to me it still has miracle qualities. I have mentioned before. I have a very complex idea about god and afterlife and only people that are really close to me have any idea about it. It has nothing to do with religion but it does have something to do with the way I feel.
Trouble wrote: Why do you think the cut off should be 14 weeks?
Sorry, was off the puter most of the weekend.
14 weeks is two weeks past the three month mark. Some girls and women don't get the idea they are pregnant until after 8-10 weeks. This gives them a bit of time to make a decision. (I know this one, because I really had no clue I was pregnant with my son until the 7 week mark - no symptoms whatsoever). At 20 weeks, babies can survive the womb - it's hard, a lot have problems that never go away, they need to be on life support for months - but they can survive.
It also goes back to when I was in HS before moving up here - a friend was 7 months pregnant, and her mom decided she didn't want any more grandkids, so since she was a minor, she was able to force her to get a late term abortion. We talked about it after she had it done - just once. It was giving birth to a dead baby - a hard experience at the very best of it, but this was knowing she was the cause of its death. This girl was never the same person ever again - probably isn't now. That is why I'm against it. At that late in the game, just give birth and give the baby up for adoption.
SS109 wrote: And South Dakota just added a waiting period before a woman could get an abortion.
Time to celebrate? I don't think so. I expect the courts to shoot down this new legilation.
This is the screwed up mentality of our government. They OK a law for a waiting period to buy a gun so people don't make a rash decision and buy a gun and MAY go out and hurt someone, but they are fighting against a waiting period for a woman to make a rash decision that WILL kill a human life. Amazing. :bash :bash
Trouble wrote: Why do you think the cut off should be 14 weeks?
Sorry, was off the puter most of the weekend.
14 weeks is two weeks past the three month mark. Some girls and women don't get the idea they are pregnant until after 8-10 weeks. This gives them a bit of time to make a decision. (I know this one, because I really had no clue I was pregnant with my son until the 7 week mark - no symptoms whatsoever). At 20 weeks, babies can survive the womb - it's hard, a lot have problems that never go away, they need to be on life support for months - but they can survive.
It also goes back to when I was in HS before moving up here - a friend was 7 months pregnant, and her mom decided she didn't want any more grandkids, so since she was a minor, she was able to force her to get a late term abortion. We talked about it after she had it done - just once. It was giving birth to a dead baby - a hard experience at the very best of it, but this was knowing she was the cause of its death. This girl was never the same person ever again - probably isn't now. That is why I'm against it. At that late in the game, just give birth and give the baby up for adoption.
My explanation - purely personal reasons.
Thanks for the story and the post. Many people don't even think about the long term damage it does to the mother. And stories like this are more often than not brushed under the rug.