The Liberals GOP Twin wrote: "If you change the priorities you will begin to understand how PMs are not protected by sacred privacy." I don't agree. I think the concept of privacy is protected by my morals. And as far as I'm concerned it's morally wrong to expose something that was sent-given-entrusted-delivered-handed to you under the concept of "private." I think the meaning of the word trumps any other variations.
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But, if I ran the world....
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CG, I think this thread was mostly just having fun, I don't think anyone is actually upset about the notion of PM's. LJ was simply stating for those that may have a need to know, that she is not reading them. That seems straight forward to me.
and FYI : anything sent electronically can be easily altered to "appear" that something was written by someone when it was not. I consider any "public display" nothing but a trolling attempt.
CG, I think this thread was mostly just having fun, I don't think anyone is actually upset about the notion of PM's. LJ was simply stating for those that may have a need to know, that she is not reading them.
Good to know.
And TM, I get both sides of the story before I believe what is sent to me. Or I don't get involved. I think forwarding PMs can be pretty tricky. You don't know what happened before or after the said PM. Taken out of context PMs and text can be taken wrong or looks different than what was intended. Don't get me wrong, you need to know that if you send it, it can be forwarded and I made my own mistakes in things I have done or said in the past. As shown in that ring thread I apologized for about 15 times privately and apologized publicly as well and was taken differently then it was meant. Taking things out of context is not the right story. And people make mistakes.
Posting a PM out of context can be twisted very easily.
CG, I think this thread was mostly just having fun, I don't think anyone is actually upset about the notion of PM's. LJ was simply stating for those that may have a need to know, that she is not reading them.
Good to know.
And TM, I get both sides of the story before I believe what is sent to me. Or I don't get involved. I think forwarding PMs can be pretty tricky. You don't know what happened before or after the said PM. Taken out of context PMs and text can be taken wrong or looks different than what was intended. Don't get me wrong, you need to know that if you send it, it can be forwarded and I made my own mistakes in things I have done or said in the past. As shown in that ring thread I apologized for about 15 times privately and apologized publicly as well and was taken differently then it was meant. Taking things out of context is not the right story. And people make mistakes.
Posting a PM out of context can be twisted very easily.
You've already dealt with that issue CG but that was one time when a pm cast the sender in a bad light. I have seen it many more times than that as I've moderated on a couple of boards and many times, like you said, context is everything.
Me, I feel really uncomfortable sometimes making judgement on people without knowing everything or even when I do. And you see it all the time in divorces and celebrities or even business having half or less of the story is not accurate. But even then, we all make mistakes too. For me you have to take into account that humans get emotional and later they realize they didn't mean what they said or didn't say it right and how the heck do you judge intention? Or what was said to them before or after out of context text. You can't.
So, writing it down for all to see is not going to help unless you are really clear. Anyone that knows me well knows I am the worst writer in the world. What comes out of my head does not always end up on paper the way I mean. Communication is not just about the words there is facial expression and tone of voice. This is why emoticons help on forums. I don't know maybe I just think differently than others.
towermonkey wrote: I've been forwarded pm's that would seem to cast people in a very bad light. Perhaps that is why they don't want them shared in public...
I've upset the wrong set of people with this post. Please allow me to restate - A single pm can be made public that might cast the sender in an unfavorable light, but without context, it is meaningless. It is a good reason for the privacy rule to remain in place.
