Romantic ways to ask someone to marry you

BearMtnHIB wrote:

Obey??? H-E-Over-My-Cold-Dead-Body-Double-Hockey-Sticks-NO! "Obey" implies an unequal partnership; I must have someone who respects and values my opinions, and every decision is made together, and that goes both ways or the marriage won't work.

Last I knew they traditionally ask both people to honer and obey. That makes it a 2 way street. That makes it EQUAL. Who on here wants to marry someone who won't honer and respect them?

Nothing in the word obey conveys equality or respect. Honor, yes; obey, no. Neither party should expect or ask that of the other if it is truly an equal partnership. Just as I would never just "obey", nor could I ever be with someone who I even remotely expected to "obey" me - I would have no respect for them if they are that spineless. If they have to obey, then trust, honor, and respect are missing, and the marriage is doomed to fail. (And yes, I know people who married for a variety of dumb reasons, honor and respect weren't even part of the relationship prior to the ceremony.)
o·bey (-b)
v. o·beyed, o·bey·ing, o·beys
v.tr.
1. To carry out or fulfill the command, order, or instruction of.
2. To carry out or comply with (a command, for example).

1. submit to, surrender (to), give way to, succumb to, bow to, give in to, yield to, be ruled by, serve, defer to, cave in to (informal), take orders from, do what you are told
submit to rebel, disobey
2. submit, yield, surrender, give in, give way, succumb, cave in, toe the line, knuckle under (informal), do what is expected, come to heel, get into line If you love me you will obey.
3. carry out, follow, perform, respond to, implement, fulfil, execute, discharge, act upon, carry through The commander refused to obey an order.
carry out ignore, defy, violate, disregard, contravene, disobey, transgress
4. abide by, keep, follow, comply with, observe, mind, embrace, hold to, heed, conform to, keep to, adhere to, be ruled by Most people obey the law.